When it comes to sex, many people wonder how long should normal sexual intercourse last, but people avoid talking about such topics, and if they did everyone would claim that it takes them one whole night, just to brag.
Welcome to Outlandisher where you’d find all the stuff everyone’s talking about. If this is your first time here make sure to SUBSCRIBE. In this article, we’re going to talk about how long “should” you be having sex for, and is there a “Normal” duration?
Well in trying to answer these questions, I discovered that “normal” has actually changed with societal expectations, and the average length of an intercourse has varied over time. So it isn’t just biology that we’re dealing with here. How long we think we should be having sex is a societal influence too.
Back in the 1940s, Kinsey Report tackled the subject through a survey, 75% of men surveyed reported intercourse lasting about 2 minutes. For the record, the diagnosis of PE is heavily weighted towards self and partner reported satisfaction but one to two minutes is commonly considered premature.
Researchers are finding that since the late ’60s, since the start of the feminist movement, and the sexual revolution, intercourse has been taking us slightly longer. How long? Well, survey data from studies done at the University of New Brunswick show that the duration of vaginal intercourse is now reported to fall within a range of 5 – 10 minutes, with durations in excess of 20 minutes being undesirable to most study participants. So that average cool spot is really, as one scientist put it: “approximately the duration of one Marvin Gaye song”.
Sadly, sex research is notoriously penis-centric and historically hetero-centric, so these numbers only apply to the time it takes for male ejaculation with a female partner and only the more recent studies investigate qualitative measures like sexual satisfaction.
In a 2004 study, participants were asked to state how long they desired sex to last as well as the actual duration of their intercourse. Female study participants indicated they desired an average of 7 min longer intercourse than what was standard with their current partners, and men reported wanting another 11 min. The funny thing about this survey is that when questioned about the duration of foreplay both men and women reported desiring an average of five or ten minutes long respectively.
So, take a look at your partner. Are they smiling? If not, it might be time for a talk about sexual needs and expectations. Because, ultimately, it doesn’t matter what study group survey subjects think, or what your friends, neighbors, or professionals on your computer screens are doing, what matters is self and partner satisfaction.